SELF LOVE

Self Love for me is not appreciating what I did best in my life instead appreciating what I am.

Well it doesn't mean that I consider myself to be flawless. Self love in true sense is to keep correcting one-self in order to be a better human being. Unconditional and forgiving self-love fosters unconditional and forgiving love of others. How you feel about yourself has lot to do about how others feel about you.

Sometimes its too obvious by the way one present him/herself. Often, though, it's not that clear. Many of us are good at presenting a positive persona (mask) to the world. Inside, though, we may be riddled with doubts about ourselves. We may be nervous about how our remarks or appearance are received. We may meet someone to whom we're attracted and silently affirm that (s)he would never, NEVER be interested in us. This way we avoid the fear of rejection by not taking a risk. 

The only way to make people love you is to love yourself.

Usualy self love is mis-understood as ego. But, there exist a very fine difference between Self love and Ego.The difference between self-love and egotism can be made more clear if we take a deeper look at so-called egotism. The person who is constantly talking about himself is not someone who is filled with self-love. He is more likely someone whose inner well of self-love and self-esteem is empty. He feels the need to replenish it from outside sources. 

Ego operates on the basis of fear and is an addiction.The ego addict is trying to escape her own painful lack of self love, and asking others to say she's lovable. Sadly, this kind of attempt usually backfires. Instead of earning approval, the person who must always talk about herself ultimately finds herself rejected. This makes her only more frantic for approval, and a cycle which is already self-defeating may become self-destructive. 

A crystal wouldn't hide its rainbows, a flower wouldn't refuse to blossom, and a cat wouldn't halt in the midst of an acrobatic leap out of concern that others of its species might think it a showoff. 

When we humans are clear about the source of our own gifts, when we know that our purpose in expressing them isn't ego gratification, but the manifestation of our soul's purpose, we can be as free in our expression as any other creature.